Sit With Us Parents
Free senior care placement for NJ and NY families
Sit with us first. Then pick the home.
A place to start when your parent needs care.
Sit With Us Parents helps New Jersey and New York families explore home care, assisted living, and memory care, and guides you through the next steps. Free to families.
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A note from the founder
Hi, I'm Hector De La Cruz.
I started Sit With Us Parents because choosing care for a parent should not begin with a sales pitch or a wall of listings. It should begin with a conversation. We listen first, explain home care, assisted living, and memory care in plain words, and then send you the licensed options that fit your family's needs, in writing. You decide, at your own pace. There is no fee to families.
Which kind of care fits right now?
A few quick questions give your family a starting place. This is not a diagnosis or eligibility decision.
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Who needs care?
Why we ask: It tells us who we should be talking with.
How it works
We sit with you first, then you pick the home. We shortlist licensed communities from the official state lists. We are a family resource, not a hospital and not a brokerage.
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Sit at the table. County + what you need. We only contact you the way you choose.
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You get two written options from the official list.
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You get a shortlist. You visit when ready. We can come along if that helps.
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You decide. You don't pay. There's no fee.
Pick a county
336 licensed New Jersey listings and 554 licensed New York listings, grouped by care type.
- Bergen County, NJ44 licensed listings in the official NJ file: 29 assisted living, 12 memory care, 3 personal care home.See licensed centers
- Hudson County, NJ2 licensed listings in the official NJ file: 1 assisted living, 1 personal care home. Nothing is listed under memory care.See licensed centers
- Essex County, NJ21 licensed listings in the official NJ file: 16 assisted living, 4 personal care home, 1 memory care.See licensed centers
- Kings County, NY22 licensed listings in the official NY file: 17 personal care home, 5 memory care. Nothing is listed under assisted living.See licensed centers
- New York County, NY17 licensed listings in the official NY file: 12 personal care home, 4 memory care, 1 assisted living.See licensed centers
- Westchester County, NY37 licensed listings in the official NY file: 19 memory care, 15 personal care home, 3 assisted living.See licensed centers
In Bergen County? Bergen County placement help. Or start with the state overviews: senior living in New Jersey and senior living in New York.
New Jersey names come from NJ DOH All_LTC.xlsx dated August 21, 2026.
New York names come from the NYS DOH Adult Care Facility Directory (health.data.ny.gov dataset wssx-idhx).
We do not publish a live inventory. Request a shortlist and we check current openings with you.
Start with the guides
Plain language pages on how families pay, what to ask when you visit, and how Medicare and Medicaid fit in.
Ask us for a shortlist
Some links and listings may be paid. We may earn a fee. You still choose.
This site is not medical or financial advice. Confirm coverage with the plan or the state Medicaid office. Facility fees are set by the community.
Thinking about another state? We help with that too.
Many families look at Florida, the Carolinas, Arizona, Texas, Pennsylvania, or Delaware to be closer to a sibling. Read what changes with cost, Medicaid, and records before you move a parent across state lines.
Read the moving states guideSelling the home or getting it ready
We can introduce New Jersey and New York realtors who handle showings. We do not list or show homes. For New Jersey homes, we can also introduce a contractor for renovations or ready-to-sell work.
Read the home transition guideComing soon
Coming soon: AI wellness check-in calls (working name Old Care)
Concept credit: prior Old Care customer-discovery work. This preview does not copy that codebase.
What it will do
Consent-based, the older adult and their family approve the schedule.
- Friendly conversations
- Wellness check-ins
- Medication and appointment reminders only
- Hydration and meal prompts
- Life-story conversations
- Missed-call alerts
- Escalation to a family member or human operator when requested
This is not medical advice, diagnosis, medication changes, emergency monitoring, automatic 911, fall/depression/dementia detection, or family surveillance. It does not replace caregivers. The caller will be identified as AI. No recording by default. Discovery only, not a paid product.